Connect'd Men · Connect'd Reads
Where Connect'd Reads men reconnect with themselves and each other.
A book club for dudes
Our philosophy
About Connect'd Men Connect'd Reads
At Connect'd Men, we believe true strength lies in vulnerability. Our Connect'd Reads chapter is a space where men can slow down, open up, and reconnect with themselves and with each other: to explore their emotions freely, without judgment, and build deeper, more meaningful connections.
Every gathering is built on S.O.A.R.: Slow down, Open up, Accept, and Reconnect.
Honesty · confidentiality · accountability
Our commitment to you
Our group agreements set the foundation for every gathering, so each man feels supported, heard, and respected. What's shared in the group stays in the group.
Make attendance a priority
Consistency builds the trust the group runs on.
Keep strict confidentiality
What’s shared here stays here. Always.
Speak from the heart
Share openly and own your story, without judgment or blame.
Listen with compassion
Hold space for others without trying to fix them.
The format
What to expect
The format stays the same every time, so you always know what's coming, with room for whatever you bring that day. You don't have to talk until you're ready.
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Mindfulness
We start each gathering with a few minutes of mindfulness to help everyone settle in and be present.
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Check-ins
Each man checks in with how he’s doing, in body and mind, without needing to explain or justify it.
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Theme and deep dive
A theme guides the conversation, but you’re always free to explore what’s most present for you.
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Check-outs
We close by sharing how we feel now, noticing any shifts, and each naming one thing we’re taking with us.
Questions about the Connect'd Reads group
What is Connect'd Men?
Connect'd Men is a community for men who want to slow down, open up, and reconnect, with themselves and with each other. We create safe spaces where men can explore their emotions freely, build genuine friendships, and practise the kind of vulnerability that leads to real connection. Our gatherings are built on the S.O.A.R. framework: Slow Down, Open Up, Accept, and Reconnect.
Who is Connect'd Men for?
Any man who wants to grow emotionally and connect more authentically, wherever he is on that journey. Whether you're going through a difficult season, feeling isolated, or simply want deeper friendships, you belong here. No man is too new, too broken, or too late. Come as you are.
What happens at a gathering?
Each gathering follows four parts. We begin with a few minutes of mindfulness to help everyone slow down and arrive. Each man checks in with how he's feeling, without needing to explain or justify it. We move into a theme, guided by a topic but always open to what's most present for the men in the room. We close with check-outs, each man sharing one thing he's taking with him.
Do I have to talk?
No. You're welcome to sit and listen for as long as you like. Many men do at first. When you're ready to share, the space will be there.
Does it cost anything?
No. Gatherings are free to attend, and creating an account is free.
Is Connect'd Men therapy or counselling?
No. Connect'd Men is a peer community, not a clinical or therapeutic service. Our gatherings are facilitated spaces for honest conversation, connection, and mutual support, not treatment. Many members find that showing up consistently, being heard, and hearing others makes a real difference to their wellbeing. If you're going through a mental health crisis, we encourage you to also work with a qualified professional. In Canada you can call or text 9-8-8 any time.
How is Connect'd Men different from other men's groups?
Most men's groups are built around activity, networking, or self-improvement content. Connect'd Men is built around honest conversation and emotional presence. We don't fix, advise, or perform. We listen, share, and hold space. The S.O.A.R. framework and our group agreements create a kind of trust most men have never experienced with other men.
Is everything shared in the group confidential?
Yes. Confidentiality is one of our core group agreements: what's shared in the group stays in the group. It's the foundation that makes real openness possible, and every man commits to it.
How do I join Connect'd Men?
A good first step is our free Connection Quiz. It takes about four minutes and gives you an honest picture of where you are right now. Then find a gathering near you or online: one short form creates your free account and saves your spot. You're also welcome to reach out to us with any questions first.
Where are gatherings held?
In-person gatherings are currently held in Connect'd Reads, Langley, BC and Williams Lake, BC. There are online gatherings too, open to men wherever they live. See upcoming gatherings for dates and places.