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Writing on grief, fatherhood, friendship and the work of showing up, from the Connect'd Men community.
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April 14, 2026 · 4 min read
Every Sunday I Was Convinced My Kids Were Going to Leave Me
If you’ve been through a separation, you might know the Sunday feeling. My daughter was 10. My son was 12 when their mom and I separated. I bought a h...
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April 3, 2026 · 2 min read
Permission to Lose Your Shit: What men need isn’t advice. It’s space.
Dear Men, Two days after Colleen was murdered, a friend was going to be in town. We had dinner scheduled. When he heard what had happened, he reached...
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March 9, 2026 · 3 min read
3:00 A.M. and 100 Miles In: The Moment I Learned True Strength Isn’t Solo
It’s 3:00 a.m. The sky is black and my headlamp is fading. I’m on the Tahoe Rim Trail high in the Sierra Nevada mountains. I’m over 100 miles into a 2...
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February 10, 2026 · 6 min read
Three Steps to Navigating Overwhelm
Note: No part of this post is AI-generated Overwhelm is a feeling many men share. Recently, I had a client ask me “If I asked you what three keys some...
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January 10, 2026 · 3 min read
Video: How to Listen so Men Will Speak
Most of us are hardwired to be “fixers.” When someone we care about, a brother, a partner, a friend, starts sharing their struggles, our brains immedi...
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December 29, 2025 · 3 min read
Why It’s Easier to Run 200 Miles Than to Open a Spreadsheet
I’ve been hiding behind my “badges of honor.” Most people look at my life, the TEDx talks, the 200-mile ultramarathons, the book, and see a man who li...
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October 7, 2025 · 2 min read
Awe Reminds Us We’re Alive. Empathy Reminds Us We Belong.
On Saturday, I took a little jaunt to Lake O’Hara and ran the Alpine Circuit. It was one of the most spectacular days in the mountains. The beauty was...
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September 10, 2025 · 3 min read
On Discipline, Mentorship, and the Men Who Shape Us
His mom brought home his first guitar when he was 7 years old. She signed him up for lessons with a guy in a little cubicle, smoking a pipe, who intro...
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September 8, 2025 · 2 min read
Redefining Strength in One Simple Moment
Last week, I received an email. At first glance, it looked ordinary. But what it contained was anything but. The email was from a man who had been in...
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September 2, 2025 · 5 min read
What Gets Measured Gets Managed
Let’s be honest. As men, many of us struggle with emotions. We either bottle them up or let them spill out in ways we regret. I’ve been there more tha...
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May 2, 2025 · 4 min read
Scars and Lighthouses: How Our Pain Becomes a Guiding Light
October 2: The Day Everything Changed It’s now been almost a decade since I heard three words that forever changed my life. “Karissa is dead.” That wa...
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December 9, 2024 · 4 min read
A Solstice of the Soul: Why I’m Creating a New Kind of Holiday Tradition
Dear Men, The holidays aren’t always joyful, and for many of us, they’re downright complicated. For years, I dreaded Christmas, wrestling with loss, d...
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December 2, 2024 · 3 min read
Redefining Strength Through Self-Compassion
When was the last time you looked in the mirror, literally or figuratively, and felt frustration rise? That inner critic in your head, pointing out fl...
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November 22, 2024 · 1 min read
Be Somebody’s Larry
In our group, one of the most powerful things we can do for each other is to simply hold space, listening without judgment, without rushing to fix, an...
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November 10, 2024 · 2 min read
Are you stressing things that aren’t real?
Last month, my 21 year old daughter was overseas. She was on a trip to Lithuania with her mom, and after a couple of days, I lost contact with her, c...
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October 31, 2024 · 6 min read
Men and Grief: Navigating Expectations and Authentic Expression
What does it mean for a man to grieve “Correctly?” better question… “Who gets to decide what “correctly” looks like for you? According to grief expert...
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October 10, 2024 · 3 min read
Understanding the Power of Men’s Coaching and Men’s Groups in Building Healthy Relationships
Why Men’s Coaching and Men’s Groups Matter in Relationships Let’s face it: Men are facing increasing challenges in building and maintaining meaningful...
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